That’s Not Fair

What to do when you are treated unjustly: 

Mt 5:43 ¶ Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

We live in a culture that promotes the idea of “looking out for # 1,” but the scriptures teach the exact opposite. Think of the story of Joseph who was treated unfairly by his older brothers and sold into slavery. Not long after that he ended up in prison because he was lied about. Joseph had a chance for revenge against his brothers but chose to have mercy and even testified that, “God meant it for good.” In Acts chapter 7 we find Stephen was being stoned to death, yet his response was, “Lord, lay not this sin to their charge.” 

In our text we see Christ is referring to a worldview idea or tradition in stating that “it hath been said.”  Jesus had a greater lesson by saying, “but I say unto you.” Just for the record it is always better to go with what God’s Word says vs what you have heard! Here are a few simple thoughts on what to do when we are not treated right.

  1. Love them anyway.

It is not difficult to love my children. Do I get frustrated with them? Absolutely! Who doesn’t? I truly believe in love at first sight when it came to the birth of my children. My instinct as a father is to love and protect them. Loving someone who would be considered an enemy is more difficult. Now for clarity’s sake the context of the scripture is referring to a person you have personally interacted with and has treated you wrong. The commandment from the Lord was to love them. Now we must acknowledge that is not easy to do. Most of the time when I counsel people on this scripture their response is something like, “well you don’t know what they have done to me,” or “you don’t know how they hurt me,” or “they don’t deserve it.” Nobody said they didn’t hurt you and nobody said they deserve it. We are speaking about matters of obedience to Christ. Doing the right thing is not always the easy thing to do but it is still the right thing. Christ simply said to love them despite what they have done to you.

 

  1. Bless them from time to time

Ok so we know the Lord has ordered us to do something that’s not easy. Let’s be honest, we really don’t want to. Let me be even more honest, its because of our pride. Let me remind of you of something I read recently. “Pride is the only poison that is healthy for you when swallowed.” Now that is a tough pill to “swallow,” but since we have that out of the way it raises the question, how do we love them anyway? By blessing them from time to time. An example would be to send a simple word of encouragement to let them know you are praying for them. Even send them a random gift. Maybe send a gift and don’t sign your name to it. This is not primarily for their good as much as it is for your heart. One of the most humbling experiences I have had to endure was to send someone a gift that I did’t believe deserved it. I have literally left the post office in tears because it humbled me so much. I never regretted sending a gift or trying to be a blessing in some way but always walked away knowing it was the right thing to do. It really helped me to not let a “root of bitterness” spring up within me. How do we start to show brotherly love? Be a blessing however you can.

  1. Go out of your way to be kind

You can be a blessing to someone and them never know it. I think you must have personal interaction to really show your kindness or “be good to them.” Being a blessing will be a good for your heart, being kind will be good for their spirit. It is letting them know even if unkind words word said, unkind deeds were done that it is not going to affect your character as a Christian. If you run into them at the store, my advice is to not avoid them but go out of your way to greet them and say hello. Again, then our flesh speaks up and says, “I am not doing that” Friend lets just go back and call it for the ugly thing it is, PRIDE! That’s the reason we say, “I can’t” or I should say “I won’t!” It is easy to be kind to those who are kind to you. It shows character and Christian love to be kind to those who have not been kind to you. In fact, Christ later in the same text referenced that is exact point.

Mt 5:46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?      47 And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?

It’s not impressive to say, “if you scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours.” If you love, bless, are kind to your family and friends only there is no reward in that. The business world will even be kind to you when you are kind to them. Christians are kind to others especially when others are not kind to you.

  1. Pray for them

Finally, Christ tells us to pray for them. I don’t believe that when Christ says, “pray for them” that he means, “Lord I pray you send vengeance upon them.” Remember that belongs to the Lord.

Ro 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

There are certain things in the scriptures that God said belonged to him. Vengeance is one of them. I do not advise getting into the practice of taking something that God says belongs to him. God said this tree is mine, don’t touch it! We then seen the fall of man in the Garden of Eden. Because of the day we live in let me note that blasting someone on social media is taking vengeance. Let’s also not be fooled into thinking that because we didn’t mention their name that it’s ok. You put it out there because wanted them to know or get back around to them. Worse than that if you are completely honest with yourselves you know you intentions were not pure. If there is truly a problem with that brother or sister then let’s get back to doing the biblical method of restoration and “go to thy brother,” and not to social media or wherever else we choose to air our dirty laundry.

Friend pray for them out of a good heart. Pray sincerely for them. Pray that God bless them. Pray that God will open the doors to make things right. I’m not saying you must be best friends, I’m saying according to the scriptures to live peaceably.

Ro 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

Before you say I have tried, make sure you followed the pattern given by Christ in this devotion.

None of us deserve to be treated like God has:

The truth is if we all got what we deserved God would have sent us straight to hell. The bible tells us there is there is “none that doeth good, no, not one.” In Romans 3:12. God has been good to us even when we didn’t deserve it. God has been gracious enough when we didn’t earn it. God has been merciful when we should have been punished. Let’s follow the lesson and example of Christ and treat people good, even when they have not treated us good.

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Dealing with Criticism

Dealing with Criticism

1Sa 30:6 And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God.

How to handle the critics

There is not one single Christian who has served the Lord for any length of time without their fair share of criticism. In fact, all CEOs, entrepreneurs, successful athletes, pastors, preachers, church leaders, politicians (good or bad) have dealt with their fair share of criticism. Throughout the scriptures you will find many occasions where God greatly used a leader but it came with much back biting and criticism. 

1. Don’t respond directly 

In our text above we find a story of David who was “greatly distressed” because of what the people had been saying they wanted to do to him as a result of a decision he had made. David had led his men into battle and while he was away the city was burned and the women and children were taken captive. It is important to note that one of the key methods David used to handle his critics was actually not responding to them directly. It is very wise when dealing with critics to always pray before responding. It should be noted that not all criticism is bad, therefore we should always consider the critic and their intent. I receive, invite and welcome constructive criticism (which I personally interpret as instruction) from wise and godly sources. 

Pr 9:9 Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser: teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.

2. Seek the Lord first

David, even during a difficult time sought the Lord before deciding his next move. The men may have forgotten during this stressful event that David was suffering personally as well. This is part of leadership. People don’t realize that we may already be hurting on the inside. Nevertheless, David drew closer to the Lord and encouraged himself in the Lord. David got his strength, his confidence and direction from God. After David received the help from God he needed then he had the wisdom on how to respond. In this case God told him to pursue after the enemy and rescue his family and claim the victory. 

3. Control your emotions 

It is easy in the heat of the moment to lash back out. People often pride themselves on speaking their mind, yet the scriptures state that this is not necessarily good. 

Pr 29:11 ¶ A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards. 

Even though all the fingers were pointed at David it did not seem he was interested in pointing the fingers back. One thing I have learned in leadership is that when things go right, you share the praise; when things go wrong, you take responsibility. David could have played the blame game but he didn’t. David, regardless of his emotions pondered within himself and took the matter to the Lord. We need to remember this important step when dealing with critics. Its easy to speak our minds, it shows character to control our emotions and do the right thing. Even as a pastor I have had people sit across the table or desk on multiple occasions with attack after attack or criticism after criticism. My pride wanted to respond and lash back out but it would only make matters worse. I wish I could tell you I always responded properly but I am still a work in progress. “Character Under Construction” 

Pr 15:1 ¶ A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Another important aspect to remember is that all of this was just rhetoric. The bible says the people “spake” of stoning him but they never actually did. It is so interesting that we always allow ourselves to get into an uproar over what people are saying but not actually doing. Many times people try to put teeth to their bite by saying “people are saying” but most often I have learned its actually just one or two. People are going to talk and we can’t help that but don’t let it distract you from the task at hand. 

4. Remember whats important

David despite the pressure, distress, and the critics, was able to keep his focus. He didn’t respond directly, he sought the Lord. He didn’t act irrationally, he remembered what was important. What was important was to rescue his family and the rest of those taken captive. What is important to me as a pastor is to “rescue the perishing and care for the dying.”  It is so easy to be distracted by critics that we forget what is most important. I have often received lots of criticism for my evangelistic efforts but it has always been by those who are not evangelizing. It reminds me of the story of D.L. Moody who was criticized by a lady for his evangelistic efforts to which he responded with something like this; “I’m sorry, I don’t like the way I do it either, how do you do it?” to which she replied, “Well I don’t do it.” Moody replied, “Well I like the way I’m doing it better than the way your are not doing it.” What’s most important is to please the Lord. Focus on God’s will for your life. Personally I have learned one of the best ways to respond to critics is to simply accomplish the task they said you could not do. Let the critics talk, seek the Lord, and finish the task God gave you to do. 

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Helping A Brother Out

Helping A Brother Out

Getting Help When I needed Help

Ga 6:2 Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.

Whenever I make the decision to do something I tend to always pick the hardest avenue to do it. Maybe it is due to my ignorance, lack of research or just the fact that a big part of my personality is the greater the challenge the greater the reward so maybe it didn’t really matter. I remember very vividly running my first half marathon (13.1 miles) on April 1, 2017. It is known as one of the prettiest half marathons in the country, but little did I know it comes at the expense of 29 rolling hills to the finish line. All the runners who spoke to me on this journey are very encouraging, but many were shocked to find out this was my first half. In fact, there response was generally, “Why did you pick this as your first half?”

In the process of running my first half I became very fatigued especially the last 4 miles after the dreaded “mile 9.” I could feel my feet bleeding, but I refused to stop and examine them in fear that I would just want to quit. So, I kept moving, slow, but I was moving. The last couple of miles was more walking than running. As I was approaching the final mile just ready for it to be over I looked up and there was my sister. It should be noted that she flew in from Florida to run my first half marathon with me. She had already finished her race, but she came back for me. She came back mainly for moral support. It was impossible for her to literally pick me up and carry me. She could not finish the race for me, so it was purely for motivation purposes. I was mentally and physically exhausted at this point. However, seeing what my sister had done, and knowing she didn’t have to do what she did greatly encouraged me. It made me forgot about the pain in my feet. It made me forget how tired I was. It made me forget about the bleeding blisters on my feet. It helped me focus on the task at hand and that was to get across the finish line. My sister literally came and “helped a brother out.”

How It Relates to the Christian

In this Christian race we are in it is so easy to focus on our own fatigue, our pain and our wounds that we forget that there are others running the race too. My sister didn’t have to come back for me and though she was and still is a much better runner than I, I don’t doubt that she was fatigued as well. She put herself aside to help her brother. Friends this is critical in helping us to endure. I have heard it said before that “we go through what we go through to help others go through what they are going through.” The bible tells us to “bear ye one another’s burdens.” Let us not get so distracted by our own problems that we fail to recognize the problems in other people’s lives. I have learned by experience that helping others out helps me to not focus on myself. Meeting needs for others has often even give a different attitude on my own circumstances. Many times, it has even made me realize my problems are not as bad as I thought they were. We serve God by serving others. What many don’t know and don’t realize that often when I try to meet the need of another person that its on those days that I am facing the greatest battles in my own life. This truly does bring me joy. In fact, that is the basic recipe for joy.

How do you obtain real Joy? 

Jesus

Others

Yourself.

If we keep our priorities in that order it does help to bring joy in our lives. I get joy making others happy. I get joy making someone smile. I get joy helping to meet a need. Keep Christ first in your life but remember to help bear burdens for others. Let’s determine maybe even today to “help a brother out.” Christ put us before he put himself.

Php 2:4 Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.      5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:

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Run With Patience

Run With Patience

Heb 12:1 ¶ Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,

Learning to run with patience…

It has been said that  “the christian race is not a sprint but a marathon.” Twenty-six years ago I got into the christian race when I received Christ as my personal Lord and Savior. In July of 2016 I ran my first 5k (3.1 miles). Less than two years after that, in April of 2018, I ran my first marathon (26.2 miles) . I am not a sprinter or what many would consider a fast runner. Our people at Calvary Road Baptist Church have often heard me say “I am not a thoroughbred horse type of runner,” which is bred for speed that you would likely find in the bluegrass of Kentucky. I am more of a clydesdale horse bred for strength and endurance! I train for endurance and literally for the long run. God has used this to give me some spiritual insight on the Christian race. Everyone has seasons of burdens and heartache. Everyone has had their seasons of reaping and sowing. Everyone has had their time of growth and setbacks. Anyone with a sincere desire to serve the Lord has had times where they felt close to the Lord and has had times where they have strayed away. For the record, even the scriptures remind us that we all stray away.  Isa 53:6 All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; 

The literal race and the christian race

I have come to find the above reference in Hebrews 12:1 to be very true in the christian and physical race. There are many factors that affect the way we run. The bible makes it clear to lay aside the “weight and sin.” Unfortunately these weights and sins affect our performance or service to the Lord. I believe that there is a spiritual application to be made that weights refer to pressure and/or stress that affect the mind, while sin directly affects our heart. These weights and sins influence our spirits and attitudes as well. Life circumstances, burdens, trials, storms, jobs, school, relationships, health conditions, financial trouble, worries, fears or things that weigh us down distract our minds which affect our service. God is concerned with us giving him our heart, soul, and minds.  Mt 22:37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.  

When we are caught in sin or when there is hidden sin in our life it has even more drastic consequences in our relationship and service to the Lord. The bible says,  Pr 28:13 ¶ He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy. There is other scripture such as the story of Achan that shows us how even sin in the life of one man can hinder the progress of a nation and have adverse effects on his family. Sin does not just affect ourselves but always affects those around us as well. 

Statistics show that less than 1 percent of the population in America. (.5% to be exact) have actually ran a marathon in their lifetime. Marathon training takes a lot of patience, preparation, physical fitness and frankly, mental toughness. Statistics also show that in today’s culture that there is a drastic decline in church involvement and attendance. Many start well but don’t finish well. Many get into the christian race but don’t finish the course. What a powerful statement given by the Apostle Paul when he said,  2Ti 4:7 I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: 

It is our goal through this blog and devotions we will share to help keep christians encouraged to “run with patience.” Pray with us as we pray for you that we “finish our course,” that we “run the race” and that we “press toward the mark” (the finish line) in this Christian Race! 

 Php 3:14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

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